Best Sex Toys for Men to Spice Things Up in 2023
WARNING: Adult content.
Sex toys are no longer just for women.
While there has undoubtedly been an explosion of toys designed for female pleasure in recent years, that doesn’t mean there aren’t a plethora of options available for men.
In fact, sex toy retailer Wild Secrets has seen a big uptick in men purchasing sex toys, with the sale of male products growing at three times the rate of sex toys for women.
“There’s a common misconception that the only products available for men are ones like Fleshlight that are non-mechanical sleeves, however there has been a surge in new technology for male products, with some offering vibrations, sucking sensations, air pulse etc,” a Wild Secrets spokeswoman told news.com.au.
Lovehoney ambassador and male sex coach, Cam Fraser, believes the popularity of male sex toys can be attributed to “less stigma around men’s experiences of pleasure”.
“For a long time, male sexuality was thought to be simple, straightforward, and linear. The stereotype was that men don’t need to use toys because they can just use their hands to jerk off and be done with it,” he told news.com.au.
“However, as we’ve seen the needle move toward recognising the nuances of male sexuality, sex toys for men have become more acceptable.”
It’s clear that male sex toys are on the up and if you haven’t jumped on board yet, you may be missing out on whole lot of pleasure that’s just there for the taking.
So whether you’re gay, bi, or straight – or you’re shopping for your male partner – there’s a sex toy for you. Here’s our round up of the best sex toys for men to buy right now, whether for solo or partner play.
HOW WE CHOOSE PRODUCTS
To help you find the right sex toy for your needs, we spoke to Lovehoney ambassador and male sex coach Cam Fraser for his expert advice and recommendations on what to look for when buying a male sex toy. In addition, our shopping team read hundreds of customer reviews to find the best toys from premium to budget to help you find the right one.
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OUR TOP PICKS
•Fleshlight Flight Pilot Male Masturbator, $84.95 at Lovehoney
•Wild Secrets Instinct 11” Deluxe Masturbator with Vibration & Suction, $249.99 at Wild Secrets
•Lelo Hugo Prostate Massager, $299.95 at Lelo
•Lovehoney Bionic Bullet 5 Function Vibrating Cock Ring, $39.95 at Lovehoney
•Lovehoney Butt Tingler 10 Function Vibrating Butt Plug 3.5 Inch, $39.95 at Lovehoney
•Vush Sol Vibrating Stroker, $80 at THE ICONIC
BEST FLESHLIGHT
Fleshlight Flight Pilot Male Masturbator, $84.95 at Lovehoney
What You Need To Know
The number one selling sex toy for men has been upgraded and is now softer, more satisfying and more discreet than the original model.
With a real-feel 6.5 inch (16.5cm) sleeve lined with dozens of stimulating bumps, the Flight Pilot promises to stimulate the entire shaft. The 0.5 inch stealth opening and twist-based allows you to play with the level of suction, ensuring you get the right feel for you.
There are over 500 five-star reviews on Lovehoney, with one reviewer labelling it “Perfect”, continuing: “This Fleshlight is simple, low-maintenance, can be thoroughly cleaned and maintained with minimal time and expense, and is infinitely superior to using a hand. I literally have not used my hand since getting it. Not only does it feel remarkably like a vagina, it is much more ergonomic – no more straining wrists and shoulders.”
One reviewer advises: “Warm this up in water before using it, rub some lube on the tip of your cock and you won’t be disappointed in the feeling it provides.”
Blowmotion Warming Pulsating Male Masturbator, $104.96 (down from $149.95) at Lovehoney
What You Need To Know
“The Blowmotion range is fab and the technology available for penis owners has come on leaps and bounds in the last couple of years,” Chantelle Otten previously told news.com.au in a list of the best sex toys recommended by a sex therapist.
“I think the Blowmotion Warming Pulsating Male Masturbator is great for authentic sensations.”
This squeezable male masturbator uses magnet-power pulsations to pleasure and automatically warms up while being used.
One reviewer called it “mind-blowing”, writing on the Lovehoney website, “It works really well. Wish I had this years ago!”
Fleshlight Quickshot Vantage, $54.95 at Amazon
What You Need To Know
Coming in at about half the size as other Fleshlights, the Quickshot Vantage is an affordable and travel-friendly toy.
Crystal clear so you and your partner can watch and open-ended on both side, this toy is ideal for partner-play and also means a super easy clean-up.
The sleeves features non-anatomical nodules and chambers for intense stimulation.
Reviewers say it’s a “great convenient masturbator” and have praised the “texture”.
BEST VIBRATORS FOR MEN
What You Need To Know
One of Wild Secret’s most popular male masturbators, the Crave comes with 14 vibration functions and seven thumping sensations that mimic the sensation of a partner thrusting against you. What does that mean? You can explore a whopping 98 pleasure combinations.
The inner sleeve is silky, massaging you in all the right places, and the firm outer casing is easy to grip.
Customers have rated in 5 out of 5 on the Wild Secrets website, writing, “Easy to use and clean, also love the thumping sensation,” and “Feels better than any blow job I’ve ever had!”
What You Need To Know
For longer guys who want a deeper sleeve, this deluxe masturbator is extra large with five inches (12.7cm) of insertable length. The internal sleeve is made from real-feel body-safe TPE, offering a realistic blow job-like feeling, as well as featuring 10 vibration patterns and two different suction modes.
Enjoy a multi-sensory experience by plugging into a headphone jack to enjoy a range of female pleasure sounds. A suction cup is also included to mount the Instinct on a surface for a hands-free experience.
Lovehoney Ignite 20 Function Mini Male Vibrator, $49.95 at Lovehoney
What You Need To Know
Ideal for beginners, this discreet, open-ended mini penis vibrator has 20 exciting functions to play with, including three speeds and 17 vibration patterns.
Featuring a lightly ribbed interior, the short length makes it a great addition to the bedroom to play with a partner. The open-ended fit means that it will suit all sizes and is very easy to clean.
Reviewers note that the vibrator might take a little practice to learn to use but once you do, it will provide “mind-blowing” orgasms. They also say it’s a fun toy for edging.
BEST PROSTATE MASSAGERS
Mantric Rechargeable Remote Control Prostate Vibrator, $129.95 at Lovehoney
What You Need To Know
A premium prostate massager, the Mantric Prostate Vibrator features a long, curved silicone shaft for more intense P-spot orgasms combined with a flared, textured base that massages the perineum.
With seven modes of vibration speeds and pattern, this vibrator can be used completely hand-free with the wireless remote control. Or give the remote to your partner!
With over 250 5-star reviews on Lovehoney website, reviewers have called the toy “sensational” and say it “will blow your mind”. They’ve also praised the shape of the top that “hits all the right spots”.
One reviewer wrote, “This does not disappoint!!! A bit of lube and it slips in nicely, feels super comfortable to wear, play with the settings and bobs your uncle … pleasure, pleasure, pleasure.”
We-Vibe Vector+ App and Remote Controlled Rechargeable Prostate Massager, $199 at Lovehoney
What You Need To Know
The We-Vibe Vector toy you know and love has been upgraded. Now boasting an adjustable design that helps you get the right angle, it also features six vibration patterns and four different intensity levels. Notably, there are two powerful motors – one motor vibrates to your prostate while the other to your perineum providing an unmatched double stimulation.
The We-Vibe Vector can be controlled by both a remote control or a free We-Vibe app, ideal for long-distance play.
With an average ranking of 4.6 stars on Lovehoney, customers have raved about the toy, noting it’s a good toy for beginners and couples looking to find that elusive p-spot orgasm.
One customer wrote, “Fired it up gave me an intense orgasm in less that two minutes. Plenty of adjustability in vibration strength giving you mild to wild.”
Lelo Hugo Prostate Massager, $299.95 at Lelo
What You Need To Know
Recommended by sex therapist Isiah McKimmie in her list of toys to spice up your bedroom,
the Lelo Hugo will “bring next-level pleasure”.
As a mid-size toy, it’s great for all levels, including beginners, and can be worn on its own, foreplay or during sex. It also features twin vibrating motors and six pre-programmed vibration modes. But what sets the Lelo Hugo apart is its SenseMotion remote, which responds to the movement of your hand for personalised stimulation.
One reviewer gave it a tick of approval, writing on the Lovehoney site: “Hugo rumbles SO hard, the combined internal and perineal vibrations are excellent and the battery lasts ages, but the best thing is definitely the SenseMotion remote. Once you have it figured out, it’s so much better than fiddling with lube covered buttons and you can really dial in the intensity level you want.”
BEST PENIS PUMPS
BASICS Classic Penis Pump 7.5 Inches, $36.95 at Lovehoney
What You Need To Know
The BASICS Classic is a great beginner-friendly penis pump for those interested in increasing their size and stamina. It’s super easy to use – coat the opening of the pump with water-based lubricant, place your penis in the pump, and then pump the bulb and watch as the vacuum draws blood into your erection.
On the Lovehoney site, reviewers have said the penis pump has “helped”, writing “does what intended for. Helped with my ED after a bit of practice”. Another said: “Does what it says, definitely increases the size and thickness.”
Tracey Cox EDGE Ultimate Performance Stamina Penis Pump 8 Inch, $59.95 at Lovehoney
What You Need To Know
A user-friendly penis pump, it features a stretch silicone sleeve opening, a hand held pump and a transparent cylinder so you can easily watch your progress. There’s also a quick-release valve for instant relief.
This pump also comes with a step-by-step guide by international sex and relationship expert Tracey Cox, so you can get the most out of the pump. She has said of the pump, “Use this to keep your penis in peak condition, which can help to improve the size and quality of your erections.”
With over 400 review of the Lovehoney site, one satisfied customer said they “gained one inch immediately,” adding: “This cock pump is amazing! First time using one, my first pump gave me an extra inch straight away!
“Simple and easy to use. I brought this to see what results I could get and I love it. I use it daily as instructed. Not only am I getting another inch + in length, my cock is thicker, harder, and keeps me rock solid for 30mins easy.”
BEST COCK RINGS
Lovehoney Bionic Bullet 5 Function Vibrating Cock Ring, $39.95 at Lovehoney
What You Need To Know
With a textured double ring, which can be worn around the penis and testicles for a boosted sensation, plus two vibration speeds and three patterns, the Bionic Bullet Cock Ring is one of my Lovehoney’s best-selling cock rings.
The bullet vibrator is tucked securely in the sleeve or can be used separately, giving you two sex toys in one.
There are over 500 reviews on Lovehoney, with users claiming it’s “the best cock ring we have tried” and that it’s a “game-changer in the bedroom”.
Lovehoney Ignite Rechargeable Vibrating Love Ring Aqua, $49.95 at Lovehoney
What You Need To Know
“If you are looking for fuller erections as well as good vibrations, a vibrating cock-ring like the Lovehoney Ignite, is worth considering,” Melbourne-based sexologist Meg Callander told news.com.au previously.
“These toys not only provide pleasurable sensations for the wearer, but they also apply pressure around the base of the penis, which helps keep things firmer for longer.”
Designed to sit at the base of the penis, this love ring is designed to take your bedroom experience to the next level. Features include three speeds and 17 different vibration patterns as well as being USB rechargeable and 100 per cent waterproof.
BASICS Doughnut Cock Ring Multipack, $12.95 at Lovehoney
What You Need To Know
Thinking about trying cock rings? This three pack from BASICS is ideal for beginners.
Stretchy and flexible, this three pack of cock rings will help keep you harder for longer. Coming in black, clear and blue, the rings are super stretchy to suit most men. They can be worn around the shaft and testicles (or both) and are easy to slip on for an instant erection boost.
“As a beginner I was a bit worried. Thankfully these were easy to put on and take off, and helped my anxiety around rings,” wrote one customer.
Another said: “Good rings for a good price. Very efficient. Nothing too fancy. I like the doughnut design with the soft stretchy material. They had the perfect amount of constriction. Not too tight but also a good snug fit.”
BEST BUTT PLUGS
Lovehoney Butt Tingler 10 Function Vibrating Butt Plug 3.5 Inch, $39.95 at Lovehoney
What You Need To Know
“If you enjoy vibrating toys, the Lovehoney Butt Tingler 10 Function Vibrating Butt Plug is great – it’s small and has three speeds with 7 different patterns so lots to explore,” Chantelle Otten previously told news.com.au in an list about the best sex toys.
“You can also get some really cute jewelled butt plugs if you want your booty to look its best!”
nsnovelties 2.8” Butt Plug With Crystal Heart Base, $14.99 (down from $23.99) at Wild Secrets
What You Need To Know
For something cute to look at, you can’t go past a bejewelled butt plug. This one features a glitzy faux crystal heart base that’s sure to catch your partner’s eye.
Featuring a lightweight chrome-plated aluminium, a tapered tip for easier insertion and a narrow but rigid stem so it can comfortably be held in place while providing precise internal pleasure, this butt plug is ideal for beginner anal play.
“So comfy to wear & looks so pretty,” one reviewer wrote on the Wild Secrets website.
BEST PENIS SLEEVES
Arcwave Ghost Silicone Reusable Reversible Textured Male Stroker, $29.95 at Lovehoney
What You Need To Know
A stretchy silicone stroker, the Arcwave Ghost comes with two exhilarating textures – one side has smooth grooves and the other has intense nodules. Simply flip the sleeve for personalised play sessions.
Made from Arcwave’s CleanTech Silicone, the Ghost is easy to clean and stretches easily to accommodate all penis sizes. It also comes with its own discreet storage case with ventilation holes so it stays clean and dry.
One rave reviewer wrote, “It’s convenient, quiet, nondescript, no-mess, easy-to-clean, uses next to no lube and it’s CHEAP,” while another advised “use it with plenty of lube for the best orgasm while masturbating”.
Vush Sol Vibrating Stroker, $80 at THE ICONIC
What You Need To Know
A vibrating penis stroker, Sol is ribbed in all the right places and is designed to provide stimulation up and down the penis. It also features flexible wings which allows the grip strength to be adjusted for different sizes and sensations.
There are 10 different pleasure settings and is ideal for solo or partnered play.
The open ended sleeve means that the penis head and balls can be played with while the stroker is in use.
Scoring a 4.8 rating on the VUSH website, reviewers are loving this sex toy for men.
“Bought for husband for his birthday. He absolutely loves it. He said it’s so smooth. We’ve used it together or he’s used it alone.”
Another wrote: “Bought for my partner and he loves it! Lots of settings to try and different levels of vibration. Really good way to add something different and mix things up a bit, and love how it adds a toy option in to the mix for men too.”
BEST DILDOS FOR MEN
Vixen Mustang VixSkin Realistic Suction Cup Dildo 6.5 Inch, $224.95 at Lovehoney
What You Need To Know
Widely regarded as the best realistic dildo design on the market, this lifelike silicone dildo is made from a soft realistic outer layer and a firm but flexible core that makes it feel just like the real thing. With a pronounced head and a 6.5 inch curved shaft, as well as a strong suction cup that sticks to any smooth surface, you can enjoy hands-free pleasure or make use a of a harness.
With a 4.7 out of 5 rating on Lovehoney, customers have declared it the “Best dildo on the market for the price!”
Others have said it “feels and IS high quality” and recommend it for pegging and anal play.
Icicles No 5 Sapphire Spiral Glass Dildo 7 Inch, $59.95 at Lovehoney
What You Need To Know
For a different experience, try a glass dildo. This hand-blown glass massager with a raised swirl texture and a bulbed head is great for massage or insertion.
With a seven inch length and measuring four inches in girth, the firm dildo is angled to stimulate the G-spot. It can be used at room temperature or chilled or warmed for an insanely new and pleasurable experience.
There’s over 100 five-star ratings, claiming that “glass is so much better” and that “once you go glass, you don’t go back”. Another wrote, “Best male sex toy ever. Smooth, durable, NEVER goes soft (haha). My only recommendation for use is use with a silicone based lube for anal play.”
BEST LUBES FOR MASTURBATION
Fleshlight Fleshlube Water-Based Lubricant, $24.95, at Wild Secrets
What You Need To Know
While lube is not strictly a sex toy, it’s a fairly essential addition when it comes to using sex toys – particularly when it comes to anal play as the anus is not self-lubricating. Plus, lube also makes using sex toy a lot more pleasurable.
Fleshlight’s Fleshlube is a water-based lubricant designed to enhance sexual pleasure with its silky smooth, super slippery but non-sticky feel. It’s specifically formulated to use with male sex toys and comes in a convenient travel sized bottle.
“This doesn’t need much to work well,” one reviewer said. Another notes that the “lube is perfect for male masturbation sleeves such as the Fleshlight”.
pjur Back Door Relaxing Anal Glide Lubricant, $39.95 at Lovehoney
What You Need To Know
Specifically designed to enhance anal sex, this silicone lubricant is suitable for use with condoms and non-silicone sex toys. Its long-lasting formula doesn’t dry out meaning just a small amount will allow you to enjoy ever minute of sex.
Using jojoba extract which has a relaxing and soothing effect, this lube will feel fantastic as scores of reviewers have attested to on the Lovehoney website.
One said, “This felt amazing as it maintained its gliding power!” and another wrote, “There’s no better anal lube.”
What are the different types of male sex toys?
There are a huge variety of male sex toys on the market these days, meaning whatever you’re after, you’re sure to find one that suits your needs.
The categories typically fall under: masturbation sleeves, vibrators, cock rings, penis pumps, and prostate massagers.
“Deciding on what is right for you depends on what you’re looking for,” said Cam, continuing, “For example, if you want something that is intended to emulate (oral, vaginal, or anal) sex with a partner, a masturbation sleeve will be best.
“If you want something that adds the novel sensation of vibration to your masturbation, a vibrator made specifically for penises will be best.
“If you want to experiment with fuller erections or need help getting/maintaining an erection in the first place, a cock ring or a penis pump will be best.
“And if you want to try having a prostate orgasm, a prostate massager will be best.”
What are the benefits for men for using sex toys?
According to male sex coach Cam Fraser, there are many benefits for men using sex toys.
“Sex toys can help men enhance their experience of pleasure during masturbation. While pleasure for pleasure’s sake is completely valid, sex toys can also help men learn more about their bodies,” he explained.
“For example, a man can use masturbation sleeve to discern which types of strokes (long and deep vs. short and shallow) are more stimulating for him and lead to him ejaculating quicker. He can then use this information during partnered sex to help him last longer.”
Can male sex toys help individuals with erectile dysfunction or other sexual challenges?
Sex toys are an ideal way to help you if you experience erectile dysfunction or other types of sexual challenges.
“Masturbation sleeves can help men with early ejaculation issues. Masturbation sleeves can also help men who struggle to ejaculate with a partner. Typically this is the case because they’ve conditioned themselves via masturbation to experience orgasm and ejaculation from a specific type of stimulation, perhaps a firm grip with their hand that cannot be emulated by a partner’s mouth/vagina/anus,” Cam said. “So, he can use a masturbation sleeve to practice and recondition himself to experience orgasm and ejaculation from a type of stimulation that is more similar to sex with his partner.”
Cam also says that cock rings and penis pumps can be “helpful for men who struggle to get/maintain an erection.”
He continued: “So too can vibrators be a pleasurable option for men who struggle to get/maintain an erection. It is possible to experience pleasure and orgasm/ejaculate without an erection and a vibrator can offer this to a man if he is willing to experiment.”
Are there any health or safety considerations when using male sex toys?
It depends on the toy you are using. As Cam points out, when using certain toys, like a cock ring or penis pump, it is important to follow the instructions carefully.
“Having a cock ring on for longer than 20 minutes or over pumping can cause damage to the blood vessels in the penis, which can result in erection issues,” he explained.
He added: “When using certain toys, like prostate massagers, it is important to take things slow, at least initially, because rushing for penetration can cause discomfort and possible pain from tearing the anal mucosa (lining).”
And a reminder that most toys do require lube so it’s important to do you research and “know which lubes are compatible with the material of the toy you’re using”.
How can I introduce sex toys into the bedroom with my partner?
While introducing sex toys into the bedroom can seem daunting at first, it can be a great addition to spice things up. However, it’s important not to spring it on your partner.
“I would advise you not to surprise your partner with a sex toy if the two of you have never talked about this before,” Cam said. “This can be intimidating and sometimes create feelings of inadequacy in our partner.”
Cam’s advice? “I would talk about sex toys together and specifically mention why you want to introduce them. It could be because you use a toy by yourself and you actually need it to help you orgasm. It could be because you want to experiment more with your partner. It could be because you have always wanted to use toys with them but have felt ashamed to do so. It could be a combination of things. Whatever the reason, talking with them first is the best way to go about it.”
Then he suggest to either shop online or go to an adult store together. “Choose a toy that you both like. Start with something small and affordable. You can always work your way up to something bigger and fancier in time,” he advised.
What are the best materials for sex toys to be made from?
It does depend on your personal preference but according to Cam, the materials you should be looking for include: body-safe silicone, medical grade stainless steel, borosilicate glass, wood with a medical grade finish, polished stone/crystal, glazed and kiln-fired ceramic, and ABS plastic.
How do I clean and maintain male sex toys?
Each toy will come with its own cleaning instructions so it’s important to check for your particular sex toy, but generally washing with regular hand soap or dishwashing liquid and then thoroughly rinsing with warm water should do the trick, according to Cam.
“It is also important to sanitise your toys, particularly for prostate massage. Most toys can be wiped down with rubbing alcohol but, again, check the toys specific cleaning instructions,” he said.
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